Fathers—it’s how women first get to know about men. They are the first Y chromosome introduced into our lives, and they invoke comparisons with all other “Y”s thereafter. In honor of Father’s Day, I’m pointing you towards a book you should read—Every Father’s Daughter, an anthology of 24 essays by writers who are daughters. Each essay is about the particular way these daughters peer through time and personal history to know their fathers better. In the Introduction, essayist Philip Lopate sums up the great mystery of why this book was written: “…I am struck by the persistent note of missed connection.” Missed chances, unknowable histories, scoundrels, saints, silent veterans of wars, death.